13 January 2008

Dear me

As much as I moan and whinge about meme tags, y'all know I'm just being difficult, right? And contrary and melodramatic. (Okay, plus some memes are just really stupid. You have to admit.)

But today I happened across a meme I l-u-r-v-e, and so I'm totally going to do it in spite of the fact that no one's even tagged me yet. Sadly, this is not the first time I've resorted to such measures.

Anyhow.

This meme takes the form of a letter written to one's thirteen year old self. (I know, yay! I was all sorts of odd at thirteen.) Here goes:



Dear thirteen year old me:

Put down the hairspray and step away from the mirror. Teasing your hair like that does not actually make you taller, just so we're clear.

Also, these friends of yours? Are brilliant. Forget the annoying but intriguing male half of the species and just hang out with your girls for a bit. They'll be the ones you'll still miss when you're thirty, and you'll find yourself hoping your kids will be this fortunate. (Keep your eyes peeled for that teensy girl in your graphic arts class. You aren't all that crazy about each other right now, but she'll change your life. And your definition of friendship. You lucky, lucky girl.)

You are right about your family: they are a zany bunch. But you also need to give them a break purely on the grounds of this--they love you. You sense it now, that you have a good family; flawed, sure, but also intact and functioning to its own happy beat. Don't be so moody. Hug your brothers. Try not to break your parents' hearts on such a regular basis.

They are all more fragile than you currently suspect.

I'd have some very specific advice for you, right here, but the truth is that you're just as obstinate as I am, so you'll ignore me (just as you ignore anyone who knows what they're talking about) in that blithe, exasperating fashion you're so proud of. You'll go ahead and choose what you will.

So know this: you'll survive. And you'll come to find there's a certain kind of beauty and strength in survival.

And once again, step away from the mirror. There are all sorts of people around you who would bloom under a little attention, a fragment of concern. Don't miss out on the preciousness of others because you're so consumed with yourself. I know narcissism is like breathing for a thirteen year old, but still. Try.

And nope, sorry, you're done growing. Five two is as good as it gets for you, kiddo.

Be good.
Me



Okay now, I am an equal-opportunity tagger, so if you feel like doing this one, consider yourself tagged. And if you do not have a blog, carpe diem.

And drop me a note if you do this one, kay? I'm curious to see how others approach this meme. Happy Sunday, one and all.

11 comments:

Momo Fali said...

Sigh...if we only knew then what we know now...

janae said...

I loved this! I will do it when I get a moment to catch up. I love everything you said. I'm telling you...you should be a writer.

Tayasmama said...

Ahh I love it! You are such a good writer Nic :) Mine would jsut say "Dear 13yr old me: You are about to become the biggest IDIOT on the face of the planet, so stop, just stop right now and listen to your mother, she really is right all the time" and that's how it would go :)

Melissa said...

Fabulous! I just might have to try this one out... :)

Tonya said...

I adore this...

such a fun insight...

Tonya

Kimberly said...

That was lovely and funny all in one. Brilliant!

Missy said...

I love it! That is tremendous. I have recently come back into contact with two girlfriends from highschool after too many years, and it has started me thinking about how funny life is. Your letter has prompted me to do even more thinking along those lines.

Thanks!
Missy

PS - I am hosting a Valentine's Day swap on my blog if you are interested!
http://www.fabricofmylife.blogspot.com

mrs. parker said...

Wow- you knocked this one out of the park. I got chills reading it. Well done. I'm intimidated to try it, but maybe...

mrs. parker said...

Wow- you knocked this one out of the park. I got chills reading it. Well done. I'm intimidated to try it, but maybe...

Tayasmama said...

Ahh I love it! You are such a good writer Nic :) Mine would jsut say "Dear 13yr old me: You are about to become the biggest IDIOT on the face of the planet, so stop, just stop right now and listen to your mother, she really is right all the time" and that's how it would go :)

Tonya said...

I adore this...

such a fun insight...

Tonya