30 August 2007

IOU (Kindra)

It was the kind of day where rivulets of sweat course from your scalp down to your shoes, making each step malodorous and slightly squishy.

July.

Todd and I had ventured out for ice cream, because apparently that is what newlyweds do. They go for romantic walks in 100 degree weather. We squished and malodored our way up the two blocks to the corner pizza/ice cream shop, trying not to glare at people who eased by in their cars and waved cheerily from the frosty interiors. And didn't pick us up.

Somehow we outlived the dangers of thermal combustion and shlepped into the restaurant. A couple of paper Coke cups of ice water later, our grey matter flickered back to life and we stepped out in the sweltering air to trek home with the remains of our ice cream cones.

Now, I don't remember what time of day it was, exactly. And I don't remember what I was wearing, because who actually remembers stuff like that. And I don't even recall what kind of ice cream I held, although I'd bet any amount of money it had something to do with chocolate.

But I do remember this: hubby's youngest sister, Kindra, was at that corner shop. She was about fourteen or so, I'd guess. And she was with a friend, and made the polite rounds of introduction.

When she got to me, this is what she said:

"This is Nicki, my sister."

Just like that.

She could have, maybe even should have, said sister-in-law. It was accurate, expected. But while there's nothing at all wrong with that term, something about it connotes distance. Part of the family by technicality.

But she said sister. As in, close to my heart. One who belongs.

And I've loved her ever since.

17 comments:

Kin said...

Oh how I would give just about anything to be two blocks from that wonderous pizza shop right now, *sigh! Although I can't say that I remember that day you're talking about, I can say that if I ever do refer to you as anything else, please excuse it as a simple slip of the tongue or the inevitable brain fart....sister :)
Ok I know that was cheesy, but hey, that's who I am!

Melissa said...

That is so sweet! What a great memory for you to have!

Rob said...

Lovin' this series, Nic....your best stuff is from the heart like this. Looking forward to even more in the future!

Tayasmama said...

:)

so grateful to be Mormon! said...

my first time here, hello.

awesome, so cute what you said on kimmy's (kimberly's) blog today. your comment made me smile. yes, kimmy is so awesome cool and sweet. take care, kathleen

so grateful to be Mormon! said...

one more thing, so neat how you wrote in your profile ... "I am freshly amazed that God loves me." me, too! i feel like i won the lottery or something in the God/religion/relationships department!

is "60pigglies" because you have four kids and husband/wife all totalling 60 toes? am i close?

cheers, kathleen

~love said...

oh, how i love this. sisters are amazing gifts...and to have one on a technicality that doesn't even feel like a technicality, but instead natural is a blessing!!

so grateful to be Mormon! said...

nic -- one more thing, totally sweet how she referred to you as her sister. and at 14 to say that, too. wow, so nice, so welcoming. good for her, good for you.

i am cracking up reading parts of your blog. that warning thing you wrote at the very bottom made me snicker out loud, too.

you're funny. i look forward to reading more of you.

happy Sabbath, kathleen

Amelia said...

This was very sweet.

Your IOU's are so full of love, poetry, and words I have to look up to be sure I understood them correctly. :o)

Amelia

Gena said...

That is so sweet!

Kimberly said...

I have a sister(in-law) like that. Amazing.

Kimberly said...

I have a sister(in-law) like that. Amazing.

so grateful to be Mormon! said...

nic -- one more thing, totally sweet how she referred to you as her sister. and at 14 to say that, too. wow, so nice, so welcoming. good for her, good for you.

i am cracking up reading parts of your blog. that warning thing you wrote at the very bottom made me snicker out loud, too.

you're funny. i look forward to reading more of you.

happy Sabbath, kathleen

so grateful to be Mormon! said...

my first time here, hello.

awesome, so cute what you said on kimmy's (kimberly's) blog today. your comment made me smile. yes, kimmy is so awesome cool and sweet. take care, kathleen

Tayasmama said...

:)

Rob said...

Lovin' this series, Nic....your best stuff is from the heart like this. Looking forward to even more in the future!

Melissa said...

That is so sweet! What a great memory for you to have!